While there are many ways to explain what personal development is, I think the fastest way is to say that it is the study of being (ontology).
Yes, we are all human beings. But how are we “being” now, then, there, or any other place in time?
It usually comes down to language (ordinary words). What fascinated me is my sudden discovery that our language has dozens of “Be” words–which encapsulate the very profound stages of transformational development within their definitions.
1. “Begin” – Conscious intention is the first step.
Although life may just happen, personal development doesn’t. In fact, life often gives us new experiences of adversity which may cause us to lose hope and eventually be skeptical and cynical. The answer is to continually begin new practices, to begin new studies, and to begin new adventures.
One of the most empowering beginnings is to begin to see life’s adversities as opportunities for healing.
2. “Behave” – Adjust to your environment.
3. “Believe” – Know that anything is possible.
Life teaches us through experience; personal growth comes from the depth of introspection of those experiences. It’s not so difficult to envision a positive future and set realistic goals that have us feel driven. What’s more profound is challenging core beliefs that we’ve had for many years in our blind spots, which are inadvertently holding us back.
4. “Beware” – Authentically consider what you are afraid to consider.
Unfortunately, on our journey there will be many who try to take advantage of us. That doesn’t mean we need to focus much attention or resources on them. Know that they exist, and just “be aware” instead of being blindly optimistic.
5. “Behold” – Accept the circumstances of life.
Honor the place where people are at when you meet people, and behold the spirit within. Namaste.
6. “Befriend” – Act the part of your ideal.
Being more than often means being in the presence of others. Treat others as they want to be treated (which is usually in a friendly manner). Be nice. Life is always easier with the companionship of a good buddy, no matter how temporary.
7. “Because” – Create the WHY of your existence.
We are the one that can be the most at cause for our own life. What’s our mission, purpose, or dream? Let’s do things in the world, but more importantly, let’s know why we are doing them. Because, that gives us more cause to be in life.
8. “Become” – Transform into a new paradigm.
Life changes people, inevitably and arbitrarily. Personal development changes people intentionally and specifically. Embrace the new paradigm life offers in each moment, with the wonder, openness, and playfulness of a child.
9. “Besides” – Leave room for the unknown.
There’s always an exception and this isn’t the complete picture. Have flexibility and foster tolerance. Besides, it’s not the destination that’s important—it’s the journey.
Enjoy smelling the roses.
10. “Belong” – Transcend to conscious co-creation.
Help others feel a part of your circles so they can feel a sense of belonging.
11. “Beloved” – Embrace eternal and spiritual guidance.
Doesn’t it always come down to love? Do you treat everyone you meet as a person wanting or needing your love? What if you did? What if we treat everyone we meet as our “beloved”?
12. Be You – Be Yourself.
You do this already. You do it well. Nobody in the world can be so you.
Now go back to the beginning, and begin.
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary
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