Why is it so difficult for me to be present right now as I write this?
I’m worried, I’m anxious, and I haven’t had a good week. First, I could forgive myself for being all over the map in my thoughts, having judgements, and procrastinating.
That’s the right path. I don’t want to force myself to be arbitrarily present when I may prefer to be in an optimal state so that I can produce extraordinary results. You want good writing, not forced writing, right?
Be here now. Why aren’t we? If we take care of the things that prevent us from being present, then it will naturally be easier for us to be present. The following are the legitimate concerns that pile up upon us as we get older…
1. Physical Health
The body always takes priority. Even just before a huge life moment, like in the middle of exchanging wedding vows, diarrhea’s urgency will take us to the bathroom.
I’m a trooper who stays committed to all my appointments despite the signs of an oncoming flu or cold. My mindset wins over my body and 95% of the time I don’t get sick. Everybody’s body is different though, and when a body goes over a certain threshold of physical ailment, it will take control of our mind too.
This is why good breathing practices and regular exercise causes more clarity for people, resulting in more moments of presence.
2. Mental Health
There is a quality of health that may or not be present in our internal dialogue. Are we optimistic? Do we generalize and catastrophize? What subjects are part of our regular thought patterns?
Influences like mainstream news media can have a huge impact on our world view and what issues become important to us. Meditation and various personal development programs can help keep our attitude and focus be up and present.
3. Environmental Distractions
Why try to be present in an environment that won’t allow it? Changing scenery, moving rooms, or just having altering positions can help the body be more relaxed and comfortable.
It’s not that some noises and lights are good and others are bad. Some people find children very disruptive, while others have their playfulness add to the spontaneity of being present. Some people prefer the sounds of nature, while classical, hypnotic, or subliminal audios help others to be more cognoscenti, retentive and present.
A sanctuary is often the most calm, peaceful, and spiritual place to be divinely present.
4. Overriding Stresses
Whether it’s a new project at work, or heated conversation with a friend, worry will circle around in our heads ad infinitum. Many of us have such busy lives in so many diverse areas, that there’s always something to worry about.
For example, the problem may be that we worry about family when we’re at work, and we worry about work when we’re with family! We’re present in neither, instead of realizing that by being present in both, we won’t have to worry about either.
Take care of the things in your life that are burdens on your shoulders.
5. Long-Term Commitments & Promises
As we move through various phases of our lives, we can see how certain decisions could have had such a different trajectory into our future. Did we make the right decisions?
Are we in the right relationship? Have we saved enough for retirement? Many people ponder the questions but don’t necessarily do the homework. There are relationship guides and there are investment plans, just like there are mentors for any area of life exploration.
6. Life Mission Alignment
Have you ever felt that you are climbing the ladder of life very well and very fast, until suddenly… You realize that the ladder was leaning against the wrong building?
With that viewpoint of life, it can be difficult to be present to just about anything. What will it matter? Did being present in the past help all that much?
Yes, it’s just that we’ve lost perspective. Presence is the juice of life, and mind-chatter convincing us otherwise is the culprit. Now it’s our job to recalibrate our muscles, and deliberately exercise more divine presence as much as possible, as often as possible.
Twenty minutes of presence and this article is complete. Time flies when we’re just being present.
Let’s love the world together…
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary