“I can’t change your life, but if I can change the way you view your life, your whole life is going to change.”
I heard those words from Ellen Kreidman, in her program, “Light His Fire/Light Her Fire”, over ten years ago. And that’s a message I convey to my audiences as a motivational speaker.
The next logical question might be, “but how do I change the way I see my life?”
Before we go there, it’s important to understand that the first step is to stop trying to change our lives.
Stop Trying to Change Your Life
When we live in the now, and just be, life happens. What must be or should be transform into mere preferences that only might be.
Change the Way You See Your Life
What will be the new view of my life?
See Every Experience As Valuable
Leadership coach, John C. Maxwell, has been know to say that “we either win, or we learn”. While that’s an empowering context, I just don’t see it applicable in 100% of situations. Sometimes we do everything right, and there is nothing to learn, except to continually exercise patience and continue practice.
Every situation doesn’t necessarily have a lesson, but every experience can have value. The value may be to get practice and exercise patience. The value may be to have a contrasting negative experience, so that we could more appreciate positive experiences in the future.
The value may be to foster more empathy and compassion, so that we can relate to other individuals with similar adversities in the future.
Don’t See Life As Personal
Doesn’t it seem like all the bad things in life always happen to us? Why? We do intellectually understand that bad things happen to everybody, right?
Instead of seeing life as “happening to us”, consider that life is “happening for us”. The universe, physics, or Goddess, doesn’t have a bias towards our life. We’ll all experiencing the game of life.
Don’t See Life As Being Pervasive
When something catastrophic happens in one area of our life, it can be easy to see our whole life falling apart. Yes, everything is interconnected and we are all one. But the oppose profound truth is that we can, and do, compartmentalize so many things in our lives.
An empowering way to see our lives is to compartmentalize a bad childhood, past traumas, and numerous failures. The past does not equal the future, and reflecting on things of the past only serves to keep the past alive.
Use your imagination, for it is never too late to have a good childhood.
Don’t See Life As Permanent
The only constant in our society is change and everything is temporary, including life itself.
It would be miserable if some world calamities would exist for all of eternity. But all of our world calamities, too, shall pass.
See every moment of your life as a unique and distinct experience of consciousness.
Live With Hope
Business owner Ed Courtney says, “If we lose our money, we’ve lost a little. If we lose our health, we’ve lost a lot. If we lose our courage, we’ve lost it all.”
Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. But seeing tomorrow as a better place than today, actually makes today the best place.
Let’s love the world together…
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary