Hey there everyone!!
Finding meaning in whatever life throws our way is one of the most powerful tools in empowerment. It’s not too hard to find meaning from all the good, and even some of the challenging aspects of our lives. But what about those extreme, unfair, and devastating moments we never expected?
There have been prisoners of war, rape victims, and countless others who are leading successful lives? How do they do it? It’s all about meaning.
Find #1 – Think Out of Context
We may look at our situations with a certain context, mentality, or paradigm. We must move outside of the context that is disempowering us, no matter how true and valid it may seem. There is always another context we could try on.
I was invited to a speed dating event last year which I accepted. Now, I had been to speed dating events organized by other companies before, so I thought I knew what I was getting into and was pretty excited. As it turned out, this particular speed dating event had a rule of “no talking.” Their idea was that people would connect visually and write notes to one another. Cute, and probably effective – unless you’re legally blind like I am.
It was a horrible situation. I felt like an idiot, and didn’t even know how to tell people about my circumstances. How the heck do I get myself into these messes?! By any context, life sucked that evening. The meaning couldn’t be about connection, or fun, or even learning. My context became pride… Most people have no idea how difficult my life situations are, how much I put myself out there, and how I can handle just about anything. The context of the experience became a reference for my life commitment.
Find #2 – Think Out of Space
Some life challenges are physical or localized, but our mind and spirit is not! We can teleport our consciousness to anywhere we want, when confined to limited geography. Visualizations in idle time are a great example of that.
On a youth exchange program in Estonia, I found myself listening to hours of lectures in Estonian on our group field trips. I guess the proper etiquette would be to pay attention and at least try to pick up some of the language. But I knew that wasn’t going to happen. So instead of boring myself to tears, or having my mind wonder aimlessly, I thought about the culture and asked myself questions about the history. Why do people teach in this way? Where else could I be right now and what could I be working on?
Find #3 – Think Out of Time
Our life challenges are obviously confined to our lifetime. But aren’t we spiritual beings on a human journey, and not just humans who have a spiritual journey? If so, then maybe we can think a little more eternally.
Despite my best efforts, having a disability severely impacts my daily living. Why did God do this to me? Why must I go through this hell? Those types of questions and answers gave me little meaning to persist in life. However, when I believe that my spirit chose this body, my birth place, and some of these life circumstances, then there is more meaning. Perhaps I wanted to experience some of this and embark on some of these lessons.
Anthony Robbins teaches, it doesn’t matter whether something is true or not, what matters is whether it empowers us or not.
Zig Ziglar taught, if you want to get what you want, just help enough other people get what they want. People have always found more meaning by serving other people, than in anything they do for themselves.
I got in those dark moments again. What’s the point of all of this? When will this fucking end? Then, all of a sudden, I remember… It’s not about me, it’s about you. It’s time for me to dry my tears, tighten my belt, figure this shit out, and come up with a new nugget of wisdom.
That’s four, this time, yippee!!
So that’s what I do. My woes are new nuggets for you. With all my pain, you better appreciate them, bioch. Jk.
Now pass it on even further. For it is not even about you, it’s about the ripple you can create by making it about someone you love. Your friends, your spouse, your children… Who gives you meaning beyond yourself?
Let’s love the world together…
[)anish /|hmed, blind visionary